Well the time has come (and gone) when the future Doctor Hubby had to submit his residency application (ERAS) to programs around the country. The application in like a college application, but on steroids. It includes a personal statement, at least 4 written recommendations, resume (CV) and an online form (I also might be missing something). So a few weeks ago when the application submission window opened he submitted his application to about 45 programs and is hoping to get at least 15 interview offers.
As I mentioned earlier, he wants to be a neurosurgeon, which means I am basically marrying my very own personal Dr. McDreamy. Grey’s reference.. anyone get it? ha! But, anyway there are a total of 103 neurosurgery residency programs in the country and essentially he has to apply to about half for his odds to Match to be as good as possible. That also means that we could end up anywhere… CA, TN, TX, MD, WI, MN, MI, PA, NC, SC… locations are endless. For anyone who knows me, the uncertainty is killing me, like actually making me more nuts than I already am. I am a planner and not being able to plan is tough.
We are currently in the waiting phase, he is hearing from programs who are offering him interviews and he is scheduling them as they come. First up was UVA this past week, followed by Medical University of South Carolina this week, with many more (hopefully) to come. As exciting as it is to hear where he is getting interviews and the thought of moving to a new place… it is probably the most anxiety provoking thing I have dealt with in my life. Of course I want him to be able to train at the best program he possibly can, but I am also concerned about my future career and the support I will need during his 7 year residency. I ideally would like to stay near my family so that I will have the support when he is working 90hour+ weeks. But, the chance of that is not the best since there are only 2 neurosurgery residency programs in MD.
In the mean time, I am trying to stay focused on wedding planning and my soon to be new job (more to come on that) and then just taking every day at a time. I won’t lie, I am sucking at it. But, I keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason and everything that is meant to be will be. *FINGERS CROSSED*
Next step in the process… ranking of programs following all interviews to submit of the match. Stay tuned….